1. Prior to the date email the person requesting a full medical and family history, vital statistics and future aspirations
2. Ask on the date a series of interview questions with a therapist standing nearby analysing the answers
3. Take all you close family and friends on the date letting them assess possible future candidates
OK , this in itself means you will be avoided so we need to look at a subtler approach. I met a girl several years ago, we had one of those fantastic dates then she treated me terribly. I never saw her again but she played on my mind. I spoke to my therapist about the one night stand saying she had ticked all the ideal partner boxes. The therapist asked what boxes did she tick? and my response was she was attractive and had a similar job to me. So now we know I am looking for someone who treats me badly, is attractive and works in a large company! Not someone who is loving, kind, respectful and (if you have followed the other blogs) has the 'Wink Factor', the vital trait for me is we can bore each other rigid talking about business! Why did I waste so much thought space over her? Oh yes, because she rejected me..
My ideal partner tick box
- Open, confident, loving, caring, stable, with a fantastic sense of humour - all those positive traits I find in my closest friends
- Spontaneous, to wake up on Saturday morning be dragged out of bed and then taken on an adventure
- Someone who can be trusted with my emotions, they won't play games or manipulate
- Respectful of my bubble! That sounds really dodgy but isn't. A friend refers to an individual's life and all it encompasses as a bubble and whoever you allow into that bubble should treat it with respect or they are out
- God damn sexy in every aspect. Neither boyish or overly feminine but just them and confident with it
- And for me they need to be 100% gay. You'll be surprised how many bi people there are out there, they will probably find a man, leave you and get married. If they don't you're likely to send yourself mad worrying that they will
Unless your tick box is unrealistic and only fictional characters can fulfil the requirements then trust your gut instinct when it comes to starting a new relationship. If they do not tick the majority of your 'carefully thought out' partner boxes they are probably not right for you.